“Life is just one damned thing after another”
Frank Ward O’Malley (1875-1932)
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It’s true for most of us, at least until we choose to do OUR own damned thing.
I suppose that we feel like this when we lose the balance between how much time and effort we invest for others compared to the time we invest for ourselves.
When we spend a lot of time doing OUR own thing, others may think or say that we are selfish, however, when we invest a lot of time for others, ( I’m thinking of mothers with young children or when we are taking care of family member in need) it can lead us to becoming frustrated or irritable.
Our challenge is to find the right amount of time between what we do for ourselves and what we do for others.
Why is it so important to think of ourselves before we think of others?
The answer is; How can we give to others what we don’t have?
How can you give money if you don’t have enough for your own needs?
How can you give time when you don’t even have time for yourself?
How can you share your knowledge when you are ignorant?
It seems to me that the most generous people of today who are able to give back used to be the people who were thinking of themselves not long ago.
An example? Bill Gates with his philantropy and his Foundation. One of the richest man in the world is becoming one of the most generous in his lifetime.
Do you feel that you invest enough time for others?
Do you feel that you invest enough time for yourself?
Do you ever struggle with these questions?
36525 days to live 
April 27, 2010 at 8:29 am
Do you feel that you invest enough time for others? Yes but it is my choice Why? My kids needs there mom
Do you feel that you invest enough time for yourself?
No but it still my choice…for a few years. My goal in 3-4 years I will invest on myself at 100%. Take care of me since then…I will survive!
April 27, 2010 at 11:23 am
“I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody.” Bill Cosby
Cette phrase que tu as utilisé dans un autre de tes textes m’a beaucoup interpellé car je suis d’un type à vouloir plaire à tout le monde et être certain que tout mon monde est OK, et ce, à mon grand désolement, en m’oubliant dans cette démarche. Ceci en résulte que tu ne vois pas le chemin clair devant toi et commence une foule de chose mais que l’on ne termine pas…Procrastination, quand tu nous tiens…
La première étape, une fois le fichier complété (Qui devrait être cette semaine) sera d’assurer cette transition qui ne se fera pas sans heurts car l’entourage de la personne qui décide de se consacrer du temps verra une différence marquée dans l’attitude de cette dermière…Conflits et discussions animées sont à prévoir et normalement, chez une personne qui cherche à plaire à tout le monde, le compromis est souvent la porte de sortie utilisée…et le compromis n’est pas toujours à notre avantage…Alors l’outil Excel doit être clairement monté et Béton !!!
Bon texte. Bonne journée !
February 3, 2011 at 1:20 pm
Thank you Manon for your comment !
February 3, 2011 at 1:20 pm
Merci Fred pour ton commentaire