June 2013


Ever  think about work/life balance?

Many people work crazy hours to fill a void in their life.

Some are just so driven and excited about what they do everyday that they cannot think of anything else.

In my case, I still don’t feel successful with work/life balance because I don’t work from 9 to 5.

The lines are blurry.

So from now on, I’ll stop trying.

From now on, I’m aiming for harmony instead of balance.

What does this mean?

It means that I will try to enjoy every moment whatever I’m working on.

Thomas Edison said that he never worked a day in his life… and yet, he was spending 18 hours a day in his labs.

Apparently the lucky S.O.B. could count on his better half to listen to him when he was showing up around midnight.

He was never successful with work / life balance because for him it was all play.

What an inspiration (hope) for those of us who are getting off on our passion!

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About 3 years ago, there was a message in my Inbox that challenged me in a very simple way.

I kept the email in front of me to look at it everyday  and remind myself to act on it.

Here it is…

 

“Do one thing every day that scares you.”

Eleanor Roosevelt

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The things that scare each one of us are different:

for some of us, it could be to call on a big prospect,

for others it could be to say “I love you” to someone

for others it could be to say “I’m sorry” or “Please forgive me”.

It could also be to go bungee jumping or skydiving.

It could be to speak in front of a large audience that you don’t know.

Each one of us have unique fears.

It doesn’t have to be big fears either.

If you practice confronting small fears, you will strengthen your “courage muscle” and it should be easier to face bigger challenges later on.

Am I making you feel uncomfortable?

Do you find it too challenging or demanding?

The purpose of this post isn’t to preach or to judge,

Instead, let’s try to see it from another angle.

     “Today is a day to open your eyes to the unfamiliar.”

     “Today is a day to let go of the familiar”

     “Today is a day to get out of your comfort zone”

 

 

Will you try ??????

 

 

OK, he didn’t say it exactly like this…

Excuse my french!

But, somehow, I think that’s what he meant…

Socrates said many years ago “A life unexamined is not worth living”  

 

 

Well, why is it that so many people don’t take the time to quiet their minds and take a look at their lives?

Why don’t they ask themselves some important questions like;

Who am I? 

What do I want to do with my life? 

What are my natural talents or skills?       

What makes me happy or unhappy?         

What am I afraid of and why?    

Why do I think I’m too old or too young?                 

Who do I like to spend time with?

And why?              

What can I do to improve my circumstances? 

Really?

How?

Do I have a tendency to blame others for my own failures or limitations?

Why?

Why do I neglect to take a close and honest look at my life?

Most important question for today is the following:  What will I do NOW to make a difference in my life?

Do you realize that your self-image a key determinant to your quality of life? You usually perform on the outside in a matter consistent with the picture you have of yourself on the inside.

I started using the visualization technique a couple of years ago. At first, I was very skeptical, but as I kept visualizing and working towards my goal, things started to happen at an accelerated pace. In consequence,  I started accomplishing my goals faster than I used to because of this technique.

As I became more successful with a few projects, it gave me the confidence to start bigger ones. It became like a self-fulfilling prophecy.

A few examples… going to the gym for me was the most boring activity I could imagine. Now I couldn’t imagine more than a few days without exercising. Saving money when I was younger was so hard for me to do. Now it has become a systematic habit for many years.

I could give you so many examples in many areas of my life where things seemingly impossible became a reality over time.

Practice visualizing yourself as you want to be, not as you may have been in the past. You can actually change your self-image permanently by repeatedly visualizing yourself as someone who is able to get things done.

Remember that it takes about twenty-one days of practice and repetition to form a new habit pattern. It has taken you your entire lifetime to become the person you are today, with the time management habits you have at this moment. It takes time and commitment to change. But once you do, it increases your self-image and self-confidence tremendously.

When developing the habits of time management, start in just one area where poor time management is holding you back. Don’t try to change everything at onceIt will discourage you if you do. Change just one habit where you know that improvement could be very helpful to you.

Begin your new time management habit strongly. Never allow an exception once you have decided that you are going to become excellent with a specific behavior.

Avoid self-indulgence !

Avoid procrastination !

Respect yourself!

Respect your time!

I was talking with someone recently and she was asking me why I was spending soooo much time exercising at my age.

At my age???   I’m only 47.

I couldn’t believe the comment I was hearing. So I thought I would tell everyone why I invest so much time exercising.

Yes, I say it is an investment because I can get a reward for my efforts.

My reward?

The more I exercise, the more energy I have left for my other obligations and responsibilities.

The hour that I invest everyday doing different kinds of physical activities is actually paid back to me the same day in the form of additional energy. When I invest 1 hour a day exercising and it gives me 1 to 3 hours of additional energy. Wouldn’t you agree it is a good return for my investment in time. And this is only the immediate reward. Exercising regularly is supposed to provide additional benefits to our overall health and well being.

Some people say they don’t have time to exercise, I disagree. Even when we are extremely busy, it is possible to walk from one place to another, we can take the stairs instead of the elevator, we can do sit-ups or push-ups or even yoga positions in some quiet areas indoors or outdoors. Cleaning our house, mowing the lawn and washing the car are good physical activities.

Instead of seeing these chores as a burden, we should start looking at them as practical physical activities. We would kill two birds with one stone. On the walls at my Gym,they wrote a message saying that putting back our dumbells at their place after using them IS exercising. Usually, when we say that we don’t feel like doing something, it is because we are too tired or we find it too boring. When we are very motivated to do something, we figure out a way to do it.

The most difficult part is to make it a daily habit. If you stick with it for 4 to 6 weeks, you should be able to turn it into a regular habit just like flossing or brushing your teeth.

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Take good care of your body. It’s the only place you have to live.

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Did you ever try to predict the consequences of doing or not doing something? The potential consequences of any task or activity will determine what is really important to you. Your attitude towards time has an enormous impact on your behavior and your choices. People who have long-term views about their lives always seem to make much better decisions about their time and activities than people who give very little thought to the future.

In the movie “Scent Of a Woman” Al Pacino gave a powerful speech and at one point he said:

“Every time in my life, I always knew what to do, but I didn’t do it.”

 “Do you know why?”

“Because it was too damned hard”

 

By definition, something that is important has long-term potential consequences. Something that is unimportant has few or no long-term potential consequences. Before starting on anything, you should always ask yourself,

“What are the potential consequences of doing or not doing this task?”

The clearer you are about your future intentions, the greater influence that clarity will have on what you do in the moment. If there is a task or activity with large potential positive consequences, make it a top priority and get started on it immediately.

Thinking continually about the potential consequences of your choices, decisions and behaviors is one of the very best ways to determine your true priorities in your personal life. Clarifying your priorities will take some of your time NOW but it could save of lot of time in the future.

We have control over our choices!

We don’t have control over the consequences of our choices!

Friends are those rare people who ask how we are and then …

Wait to hear the answer.

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