June 2010


“For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin – real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way. Something to be got through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life.”

 Alfred D’Souza.

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“Time is the coin of your life. It is the only coin you have, and only you can determine how it will be spent.”

Carl Sandburg

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Our time is like a bank account; every day we each have 1440 minutes that we can withdraw and we choose to invest as we want, the only difference with a financial bank account is that we cannot make a deposit, only withdrawals.

What will you do with your withdrawal today?

 

“Time is what we want most, but… what we use worst.”

William Penn

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“The butterfly counts not months but moments, and has time enough.”

Rabindranath Tagore

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“With money you can buy a clock but not time”

Chinese proverb

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With good health, we have the energy to be productive,
When we are productive, we can earn a good living,
When we earn a lot of money, we can afford more things,
With more things or resources, it can improve our quality of life, ( up to a certain point)
When our quality of life improves, we can become more generous,
When we become more generous, we feel good about ourselves,
When we feel good about ourselves, it contributes to our general well being and health.
If I keep reasoning this way, it seems that all this should have a positive effect on our longevity.
But sometimes it doesn’t.
Why?
It is difficult to admit or to accept, but we don’ t have control over a lot of things.

One of the thing we don’t have much control over is; Time.

So money can buy us a lot of things, but not Time.

If you have time to read this post, it is because you have more than most people in many areas of your life.

But do you take good care of your time?

“Time cools; time clarifies; no mood can be maintained quite unaltered through the course of hours.”

Thomas Mann

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Good news, bad news, good mood, bad mood, joy, disappointments, new and exciting projects, boring routine, sunny day, rainy day, entertainment, lazy sunday afternoon…

This is what life is made of and each one of us must make the best of it.

One of the best lines I have ever read is from Anthony Di Mello who said: I AM NOT my depression.

He meant that we all have bad days but we can choose to watch our bad mood as a spectator would watch a movie, we don’t have to identify with it, we can simply become the observer of our mood.

Remember that it is not what happens to us but how we react to what happens to us that matters.

Do you spend too much time worrying about your mood swings?

Do you accept that you can have a bad day and just witness yourself having a bad day?

 

 

“People always make time to do the things they really want to do.”

Stephen Lafond

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How creative do we become when we really want to do something? It is too bad we are not as motivated when we have to do something. Then again we are extremely motivated when we must.

So is it possible that only intense desire and extreme fear are the most effective motivators?

In the middle, aren’t we just bored?

What do you think?

“Don’t say you don’t have enough time. You have exactly the same number of hours per day that were given to Helen Keller, Louis Pasteur, Michelangelo, Leonardo da Vinci, Thomas Jefferson and Albert Einstein.”
 
— Jackson Brown Jr., writer
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“Nothing is a waste of time if you use the experience wisely.”

Auguste Rodin

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This quote from Auguste Rodin was sent to me from a good friend. I really like this quote because it says;

Nothing is a waste of time… if … which implies that we can learn from good and bad things happening to us,

if and only if we use the experience wisely.

I know it is easier said than done.

Do you experience wisely what is happening to you?

“The future is something which everyone reaches at the rate of 60 minutes an hour, whatever he does, whoever he is.”

C.S.Lewis

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“To build up a future, you have to know the past”

Otto Frank

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“Time is an equal opportunity employer. Each human being has exactly the same number of hours and minutes every day. Rich people can’t buy more hours. Scientists can’t invent new minutes. And you can’t save time to spend it on another day. Even so, time is amazingly fair and forgiving. No matter how much time you’ve wasted in the past, you still have an entire tomorrow.”

Denis Waitley

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“Time is like money, the less we have of it to spare the further we make it go.”

Josh Billings

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When I was 5 years old, I couldn’t care less about time.

When I was 15 years old, it seemed to me that everything was always taking too long to happen.

When I was 25 years old, it seemed like I was always so busy and running out of time.

When I was 35 years old, with a wife and children, a business to run, and bills to pay, I really had less and less time.

Now at almost 45 years old, I know that we never have enough time to do everything but we always have time to do the most important.

The more pressure we have with time, the more productive we seem to become.

Are you making the most of the time you have?

Expect the best. Prepare for the worst. Capitalize on what comes.”

Zig Ziglar

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How much time and worrying would we save by adopting this attitude in life?

“Forget the mistakes and the disappointments of the past. It has nothing to do with your future. “

Stephen Lafond

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Everyday is a new day.

“There are very few men – and they are the exceptions – who are able to think and feel beyond the present moment”.
 
 Carl Von Clausewitz 1780-1831
 
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One of the most difficult things to practice in our lives is to delay gratification and to take a long term perspective with our projects. Our consumer society doesn’t help us when it encourages us to BUY NOW and PAY LATER. Many times, we buy things we don’t need with money we don’t have to impress people who don’t care. We should always try to make the difference between an expense and an investment. We should try to avoid instant gratification. It’s a big challenge because it goes against every major trend in our society.
 
It applies to other areas in our lives as well;
 
The Olympic athlete has to make a lot of sacrifices to reach his/her goal. The medical student has to concentrate on his/her classes in order to get the diploma. The investor has to learn patience if he or she wants to earn dividends.
 
It is difficult because we should enjoy every day like if it is the last and at the same time invest our efforts and our resources for the future. The challenge for us is to find the balance between these two concepts.
 
Do you have the right balance between your daily activities and your long term projects?
 

“Perseverance is failing 19 times and succeeding the 20th.”

— Julie Andrews, actress

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Why do we give up on some of our projects? Because it’s too hard. It takes too much time. We don’t have the patience.

The irony is that when we keep persevering, we usually save time in the long run.

“Don’t feel entitled to anything you don’t sweat and struggle for”

Marian Wright Edelman (1939- )

American activist and founder of the Children’s Defence Fund

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Did you ever hear the saying “Easy come, easy go”? There seems to be an unwritten law in nature that takes away what we don’t deserve or what we didn’t work hard enough for. There is no way to prove it, but we can witness it over and over again in the form of people winning the lottery and spending everything very quickly, or children who inherit from rich parents without having to work for their money. Another variaton of this is when people have such an easy life that they are unable to cope when disaster strikes.

Do you often try to take some shortcut in order to get what you want?

“Space we can recover, time never”.
 

Napoleon Bonaparte 1769-1821.
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I guess Napoleon was right about this advice because the space he tried to conquer is still around, but he is no longer among us.

 

“Don’t ever be afraid to admit you were wrong. It’s like saying you’re wiser today than you were yesterday.”

— Robert Newell, humorist

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It takes a lot of humility to admit when we are wrong. I hate to admit when I’m wrong, but I like the idea that I am getting wiser.

The sooner we admit our faults, the more life experience and wisdom we acquire. It saves a lot of time and useless suffering.

Which one will win?

Pride or Wisdom?

“There is more to life than increasing its speed.”

Gandhi

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Are you driving at one hundred miles an hour going nowhere?

Are you constantly busy doing unimportant things?

Are you repeating the same things over again and again? 

 

“Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless.”

— Mother Teresa, charity worker

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When we give a sincere compliment, it costs us nothing, but it enriches the person who receives it. It usually doesn’t take much of our time, but it has a long lasting effect on the recipient.

Why don’t we take time to give more compliments?

“To some degree, you control your life by controlling your time. ”

— Conrad Hilton, hotel executive

“What it lies in our power to do, it lies in our power not to do”

Aristotle

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To choose or not to choose?

To invest or to spend?

To compliment or to criticize?

To exercise or to be lazy?

To eat healthy food or junk food?

To study or to watch TV?

To smile or to look sad?

To look at things positively or to look at them negatively?

To feel gratitude or to complain?

To look forward or to look back?

To use our time in a smart way or to waste our limited time?

What will you choose?

“What happens is not as important as how you react to what happens.”

Thaddeus Golas

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I agree but it is easier said than done Thaddeus!

OK OK I will try.

When something happens, stop yourself from reacting, and notice if your reaction is about to benefit you or disadvantage you. The way you choose to react can actually help you grow positively, regardless of the problem, it will most likely not be worth the reaction you were about to attribute to it.

“Nonsense is so good because common sense is so limited”

George Santayana

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When we waste our time, this is what I call nonsense. And there is so much time that is wasted.

When we are being smart with our time, this is what I call common sense. And there should be more of this.

Being smart with our time has a different definition for each one of us.

But wasting our time will give us similar results; Frustration, Dissatisfaction, Regrets, Procrastination…

Do you use common sense more often than nonsense?

Indolence is a delightful but distressing state; we must be doing something to be happy. Action is no less necessary than thought to the instinctive tendencies of the human frame.

Gandhi

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It feels good to relax, to take it easy, but for most of us, we feel better when we have a productive day.

It feels really good at night when we review all what we have accomplished. It is much more enjoyable than when we procrastinate over what must be done.

There is another kind of day that is very interesting, it is when we plan to have a relaxing day to reward ourselves.

It becomes “productive” to relax in these circumstances.

Do you take the time to relax in a productive way sometimes ?

 

“Nothing is too difficult, you only need to know how”

Yiddish proverb

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Yes but it takes so much time to learn…

What about the time we waste by refusing to learn?

I wonder which one is more costly.

You CAN do anything you put your mind to.
The phrase I CAN’T is what limits you from doing everything you want to do .

Why limit yourself?

“Oh, I’m so inadequate. And I love myself”

Meg Ryan

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Talk about self-esteem, self-confidence and … a good sense of humor.

Do you accept yourself the way you are?

Isn’t it a waste of time to dwell on what’s wrong with you instead of accepting yourself with the good and the bad ?

“Hope for a miracle. But don’t depend on one.”

Talmud

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This is like the saying that goes ;

“Pray like everything depends on God and work like if everything depends on you”

To me, it means that we have put our trust in destiny, however we must put in the effort.

We reap what we sow! Help yourself and the universe will help you!