“What it lies in our power to do, it lies in our power not to do”

Aristotle

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To choose or not to choose?

To invest or to spend?

To compliment or to criticize?

To exercise or to be lazy?

To eat healthy food or junk food?

To study or to watch TV?

To smile or to look sad?

To look at things positively or to look at them negatively?

To feel gratitude or to complain?

To look forward or to look back?

To use our time in a smart way or to waste our limited time?

What will you choose?

“What happens is not as important as how you react to what happens.”

Thaddeus Golas

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I agree but it is easier said than done Thaddeus!

OK OK I will try.

When something happens, stop yourself from reacting, and notice if your reaction is about to benefit you or disadvantage you. The way you choose to react can actually help you grow positively, regardless of the problem, it will most likely not be worth the reaction you were about to attribute to it.

“Nonsense is so good because common sense is so limited”

George Santayana

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When we waste our time, this is what I call nonsense. And there is so much time that is wasted.

When we are being smart with our time, this is what I call common sense. And there should be more of this.

Being smart with our time has a different definition for each one of us.

But wasting our time will give us similar results; Frustration, Dissatisfaction, Regrets, Procrastination…

Do you use common sense more often than nonsense?

Indolence is a delightful but distressing state; we must be doing something to be happy. Action is no less necessary than thought to the instinctive tendencies of the human frame.

Gandhi

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It feels good to relax, to take it easy, but for most of us, we feel better when we have a productive day.

It feels really good at night when we review all what we have accomplished. It is much more enjoyable than when we procrastinate over what must be done.

There is another kind of day that is very interesting, it is when we plan to have a relaxing day to reward ourselves.

It becomes “productive” to relax in these circumstances.

Do you take the time to relax in a productive way sometimes ?

 

“Nothing is too difficult, you only need to know how”

Yiddish proverb

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Yes but it takes so much time to learn…

What about the time we waste by refusing to learn?

I wonder which one is more costly.

You CAN do anything you put your mind to.
The phrase I CAN’T is what limits you from doing everything you want to do .

Why limit yourself?

“Oh, I’m so inadequate. And I love myself”

Meg Ryan

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Talk about self-esteem, self-confidence and … a good sense of humor.

Do you accept yourself the way you are?

Isn’t it a waste of time to dwell on what’s wrong with you instead of accepting yourself with the good and the bad ?

“Hope for a miracle. But don’t depend on one.”

Talmud

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This is like the saying that goes ;

“Pray like everything depends on God and work like if everything depends on you”

To me, it means that we have put our trust in destiny, however we must put in the effort.

We reap what we sow! Help yourself and the universe will help you!

“Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.”

Gandhi

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This wraps up my whole philosophy in 2 very wise sentences. Stick this quote on your door, so that every time you leave the house you apply this philosophy.

“Do not allow the little things of today to disturb you.”

Author unknown

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When an issue upsets you, try to remember how small and insignificant that issue is in comparison to what other people are going through all over the world. Some people have no food, no water, no shelter, no health…is your problem really that important?

Why do we give so much time and attention to the little things?

Why are the causes of disagreement so often on the little things?

Why don’t we invest our time on the real important issues of our lives?

“The best part of our lives we pass in counting on what is to come”

William Hazlitt

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Instead of enjoying and being thankful for what we have now…

Have a nice day .

“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony”

Mahatma Gandhi

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It saves so much time when we choose to align the thinking, the saying and the doing altogether.

But why don’t we do this more consistently ?

“Joy is not in things, it is in us!”

Benjamin Franklin

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In our consumer society, we are bombarded everyday with advertisements that try to persuade us that we need a certain new toy to be happy.

And once we get the new house, new car, new boat, new clothes …will it really make us happy?

And for how long?

Benjamin Franklin wrote this quote more than 250 years ago before the advent of the consumer society.

I believe he was right. Joy has to be from inside us.

Where does your joy come from?

“Avoid with fury the killers of time “

Og Mandino

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Most of the time, we are not even aware of how we waste our time.

One of the ways that I found to avoid repeating the same mistake too often is to write it down after becoming aware of it.

The more I become aware of something, the more I will increase the chances of correcting the undesired behaviour.

Have you identified your “killers of time” ?

“There’s only one corner of the universe you can be certain of improving, and that’s your own self.”

Aldous Huxley

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This is so true. But why is it so hard to admit or to accept?

Gandhi said;

“You must be the change you wish to see in the world.”

 

Will you try it today?

 

“It is wonderful what you can do when you have to”

C.S. Lewis

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Why are we so productive the day before we leave on holidays? We want to make sure everything is done before we go.

This is evidence that we waste time on other days. This is evidence that we procrastinate a lot.

Whatever you would like to do or you must do, act now, act today!

“Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; but remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hope for.”

Epicurus

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“Life is something to do when you can’t get to sleep”

Fran Lebowitz ( 1950-      )

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I still feel like a kid most of the time. I really don’t like going to sleep at night. I can’t wait to get up early in the morning.

By the time I’m ready to go to bed, I’m so exausted that I fall asleep right away. In between I try to live life to the fullest.

Do you have a hard time sleeping sometimes?

If you do, I reccommend that you do something very enjoyable until you’re so tired, that you will need to rest very quickly.

When it comes to relationships with your loved ones;

Love is spelled  T-I-M-E.

Our life is frittered away by detail…simplify,simplify.

Henry David Thoreau

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How much time do you spend taking care of things that are not important?

How much time do you invest in things that are important?

Do you take time to get rid of what’s not essential?

 

 

“Only when we are no longer afraid do we begin to live”

Dorothy Thompson, journalist

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“It is neither wealth nor splendor, but tranquility and occupation, which give happiness”

Thomas Jefferson

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Thomas Jefferson was describing the “Flow” before it was clearly defined by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi

Flow is the mental state of operation in which a person in an activity is fully immersed in a feeling of energized focus, full involvement, and success in the process of the activity. Proposed by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, the positive psychology concept has been widely referenced across a variety of fields.

According to Csikszentmihalyi, flow is completely focused motivation. It is a single-minded immersion and represents perhaps the ultimate in harnessing the emotions in the service of performing and learning. In flow the emotions are not just contained and channeled, but positive, energized, and aligned with the task at hand. To be caught in the ennui of depression or the agitation of anxiety is to be barred from flow. The hallmark of flow is a feeling of spontaneous joy, even rapture, while performing a task.

Colloquial terms for this or similar mental states include: to be on the ball, in the zone, in the groove, or keeping your head in the game.

(source: Wikipedia, english, May 18, 2010)

How often are you experiencing the Flow?

“To choose time is to save time”

Francis Bacon (1561-1626)

English philosopher

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It’s all about choices! At every moment, we must choose.

Choose to eat well. Choose to sleep enough. Choose to be physically active. Choose to learn some new skills. Choose to teach to younger people. Choose to be friendly. Choose to be patient. Choose to give. Choose to relax. Choose, choose, choose.

We each have to make our own choices individually.

Which choice will you make today?

 

Act now because now is all you have. Too many times, we wait before doing what we know we should be doing.

This is called procrastination. But why do we wait? Is it because of fear? Is it because of laziness? Is it because of a lack of self-confidence?

Whatever the reason, time will not wait for us.

“At the end of each day, you should play back the “movie” of your day”

Stephen Lafond

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If you do, ask yourself if you would like to produce this kind of movie again.

The Ant Philosophy by Jim Rohn

Did you ever hear about a simple but powerful concept: the Ant Philosophy. I think everybody should study ants.

Ants never quit. That’s a good philosophy. If they’re headed somewhere and you try to stop them, they’ll look for another way. They’ll climb over. They’ll climb under. They’ll climb around. They keep looking for another way. What a neat philosophy—to never quit looking for a way to get where you’re supposed to go.

Never give up, look ahead and do all you can.

How many times do we start a project without finishing it?

I declare myself; GUILTY. (too many times…)

Have a great week end! 

“Whenever I go on a ride, I’m always thinking of what’s wrong with the thing and how it can be improved.”

Walt Disney

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Everyday we should become a little better than we were the day before. If we can become one percent better daily, we can recreate our life every 100 days. Learn to get better daily; look for ways to improve, to be kinder, more intelligent, and more helpful..

Everyday we re-create ourselves.

Do you evaluate yourself everyday to see what you can improve?

“It’s kind of fun to do the impossible.”

Walt Disney

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Walt Disney said, “If you can dream it, you can do it.” Life is too short to spend it doing the possible. Learn to pursue the impossible, pursue what others say can’t be done, pursue what has never been done before, pursue your dreams, and turn them into a reality.

You must believe in the beauty of your dreams. Walt said, “When you believe in a thing, believe in it all the way, implicitly and unquestionably.” If you’re going to believe, you might as well believe all the way.

It’s the age-old question, how to reconcile the fact that life is so short?

Make the most of every nanosecond.

Or at least, die trying…

  “Perfection of character is this: to live each day as if it were your last, without frenzy, without apathy, without pretense.”
   
  Marcus Aurelius (121–180)
Roman emperor, philosopher

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In other words, we should try to be fully aware of each moment, to do one thing at the time with people, to be active and productive and to simply be ourselves.

“Forgive yourself before you die. Then forgive others”

Morrie Schwartz  (  Tuesdays with Morrie p.164)

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Why is it so important to forgive ourselves? Why is it so important to forgive others as soon as we can?

Forgiving ourselves and others is an act of letting go, it is also an act of selfishness because when we let go, we let go of the emotions that are poisoning our day. Who needs these emotions? Shouldn’t we use our limited time and energy for more exciting activities?

Morrie said “Forgive yourself and others before you die”

But since we don’t know when we are going to die, why not forgive NOW?

If we know that we will eventually forgive, why wait?